This bath and novena ritual is to bring a new lover into your life. It’s perfect for anyone who will be spending Valentine’s Day alone and isn’t happy about it!

Begin by buying yourself some presents for Valentine’s Day — comfy sleepwear, fuzzy slippers, fresh flowers, and luxurious chocolates. Something indulgent. Arrange your presents before making this bath.

Dissolve one blue anil ball in very hot water. Add a few drops of Van Van oil and the juice of one lemon. Pour into your warm bath. Candles are a must!

This is a bath for letting go, so release your thoughts as best you can. Focus on the flickering light, the clean scent, the warmth. When you have had at least one thought-free moment, you may step out fresh, saving some of the bath water for later.


Now sit at your desk, vanity, or kitchen table. Write a list of all the things you want in a “perfect” mate. Now, see yourself as they would see you, and write out what they desire in YOU — all the things you have to offer!

Over your pot of reserved bath water, burn your first list to ash, and ask God and the Universe to bring you the right mate. Go to a crossroads and throw the water behind you, walking away.

Tape your second list, the best of you, to a red or pink glass-encased candle dressed with the love oil of your choice. Light it while enjoying your Valentine’s Day gifts, and use it in prayer for nine days.

Several years ago the Catholic bishops of England and Wales composed a novena prayer to support single people seeking a spouse! Here it is… 

Loving Father,
You know that the deepest desire of my heart is to meet someone I can share my life with.
I trust in your loving plan and ask to soon meet the one you have prepared for me.
Through the Holy Spirit, open my heart and mind so that I recognise my soulmate.
Remove any obstacles that may be in the way of this happy encounter,
So that I might find a new sense of wholeness, joy and peace.
Give me the grace too, to know and accept, if you have another plan for my life.
I surrender my past, present and future into the tender heart of your Son, Jesus,
Confident that my prayer will be heard and answered.
Sacred Heart of Jesus, I place all my trust in you.
St Valentine, pray for me.

Light your red or pink candle daily, praying this novena for nine days.